You try so hard to leave your personal business at home and your work business at work, right? How is that working?
As much as we would like to turn our thoughts and emotions on and off - it doesn't work that way. Some people have learned to do that by pure discipline, however, that is only kicking the can down the road. You really do have to deal with your emotions for them to process.
Culture has made us think that it is a proof of our strength by how much we juggle at one time (or endure). Most often it isn't a choice of being strong, it is doing what you have to do to survive! Right?
The best thing you could ever do for yourself is to learn some skills to deal with your struggles. I know that it is hard to ask for help and even harder to know where to look for help!
Who can you trust? Who will understand? I'm so embarrassed! Seems like such a little thing! Why can't I just forget about it? Do these questions sound familiar? Hmmm.......
So it's "easier" to stuff it under that "forget about it-I don't want to deal with it" rug? (And by the way, are you aware of that big hump under the rug you are walking around now - 'cuz it's too big to step over?) Then it would be "harder" to deal with it, so then you would have to be stronger and braver to deal with it, than to stuff it! I hope that made sense! : )
What if you could learn a few questions to ask yourself that will help you be an over-comer? And in doing so, it would lighten the load!
Is it your responsibility? So many times we pick up things that aren't ours to carry. Are you doing something "just so that it gets done"? Is it your responsibility to do that? Or is it someone else who is letting you do it because YOU DO!
Are you a "people please-er"? Are you trying to be someone for everyone? Don't want to upset anyone? Trying to fill in the gaps? Guess what? If you are busy trying to please a lot of people, we miss out on YOU! You were created to be uniquely YOU (YOU-nique)! You have purpose just being you. If you step back, the person who is supposed to do what you are doing, might step up to the plate. Don't stand in someone's way of being who THEY are supposed to be!
Are you letting yourself be pressured into doing things that you don't want to do? Either you don't agree with it in principle, or it's just peer pressure. That isn't you, either! Maybe as a student you are pressured into socializing instead of studying. Or at work, socializing instead of working. Maybe someone wants to talk at your desk while you are trying to work. What would you be doing without someone trying to get you to do something outside of your responsibility?
Are you allowing yourself to take on more than you are really responsible for, just because you do work hard and are good at what you do? Are you allowing yourself to be overloaded at work just because you are conscientious and do your work with excellence? This ties back to number one, above.
There is a fine line between doing your job/doing it well/helping people out with something that you are good at/and letting people take advantage of you.
What if you could find the balance of being the best at what you do and allowing others to grow up and do their part, too? AND I know it isn't that easy. There are some people that don't want to change. Don't want to work. And don't want responsibility. They will eventually get sifted out.
Take responsibility for you. do your best. Stay in your lane! Let some things go!
The emotional freedom that this brings is really eye-opening. You find yourself to being less crabby and frustrated. Happier and more pleasant to be around.
Don't you wish everyone else would to the same? Take on their OWN responsibilities and OWN them? : )
That's how we were created to be. We each have our own gifts and specialties, learned from certain difficult situations, lived out life experiences that give us a unique personality and outlook on life.
Why would you want to be anything other than who you are created to be?
Does it really matter what anyone else thinks about you? To be honest, they probably don't think about you as much as you think they do! Most people are about themselves and thinking about their next steps - not YOU! Get over you being the "cat's meow" and be YOU!
The difference is that you will be more confident, less stressed, and happier. Isn't it worth that much?
You don't have to be overloaded at work or at home. You don't have to be doing too much or be someone you are not.
How about you go shine and be YOU!
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know what I have planned for you,' says the LORD. 'I have plans to prosper you, not to harm you. I have plans to give you a future filled with hope.' NET
Luke 12:27 "Consider how the flowers grow; they do not work or spin. Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his glory was clothed like one of these!" Flowers don't compete or compare. They grow where they are planted and do their best to be what they were created to be.
Note: The pictures in this blog are from a photo shoot I did at a local lake. It combined my love for antiques and my desire to help people see their value in themselves.
Check out my 9 Verses for Strength that you can print out, cut apart and color to keep in you pocket or purse to help you draw strength from the Lord.